Okay, so my hands are in agony right now. To the point where they were just red and cracking and hurt to even breathe on them. I got help from Lucian and Brian, thankfully.
What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?
Long ass tory time: back in the early to mid aughts, we were pretty housing unstable. That’s a very nice way of saying we were homeless. Like, really bad.
I’d have to say that my favorite album, certainly the one with the most positive memories attached, would be Harry Belafonte Returns to Carnegie Hall. Just… so many good memories.
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
Y’all know that phrase that people regurgitate when things go wrong? It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s a stubbed toe, burned dinner, missed bus, or catastrophic accident. People spit out the “well, everything happens for a reason!” Usually with a well-meaning, gentle smile.
It makes me want to throw things.
Technically, everything does happen for a reason, in the literal sense. That reason is that people make choices of all kinds with or without thought to the potential consequences to themselves or others.
Choice: some guy drove home with a blood alcohol of legally dead. Resulting consequences: my grandmother died and he got a scant eleven years in prison.
Choice: my abusers hurt me. Consequences: I have complex post-traumatic stress disorder and a hatred of bodily fluids.
Choice: I chose to make the best choice for myself and leave Indiana. Consequence: I now live in Wisconsin and am happier than I have maybe ever been.
Everything doesn’t always have a reason beyond chance. Nothing is for certain. But that doesn’t mean that we avoid trying to make better choices when presented the opportunity.
I wish I learned that “everything happens for a reason” is simply someone usually trying to express “I’m sorry this is happening to you, I don’t know why, or how to necessarily help, but I care”.
I am finishing up cleaning up our lovely dinner of salad and chicken nuggets before hitting the books in my two courses this five week term: biology and college math.
I am low-key terrified because I’ve always been told I am a mathematical moron. I don’t agree, but Indo agree that number flip around on me sometimes (thanks, dyscalculia! Not really. Fucking hell it sucks.)
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
The biggest red flag that someone could wave for me is a lack of empathy. That’s it. That’s the heart of it for me. If I have to explain to you that you should care about your planet, fellow humans, or other living creatures, I’m out. If you cannot be a decent human being for the sake of being a decent human being, you have no place in my life.